Tips on a healthy gossip a.k.a mengumpat

Surprised?
Well I don't blame you, you should be surprised. If you're not... well... wow... I don't know what to say.
I guess I'm just not good with surprises... lol...

Hmm?

Yeah, you didn't misread the title. The title does say 'Tips on a Healthy Gossip'
The one verb that every soul have accomplished as bad.

Well you know what?
Scrap that.

I have tips on 'mengumpat' that you'll take a shine on.

So here are the tips.


TIP #1

Always think of Allah when you're gossiping.

It is Allah who set the rule of no gossiping of others.
It is Allah who told us to speak only good of each other.
It is Allah who has created us.
So why not think of Him whenever you're gossiping?
It makes sense. He gave us the idea to gossip in the first place right?


TIP #2

Judge yourself.

When you gossip.. or better yet before you gossip, ask yourself.
Are YOU perfect?
I'm flawfull (if that's even a word)
Because if you're talking about another of Allah's creation of it's imperfection, then you must be perfect yourself.
Isn't that mainly just logic?

The Prophet had said:
" Gracious to those who work hard on improving themselves, than talk bad of others"

Because no one is perfect.
But imperfectly perfect.
(by Alex Lambert... he's pretty cool too)

What? One Direction's not the only singers around.


TIP #3
(haha funny clicking the same button)

Syukur.

Even thought you're visually better then the person you gossip about, but no need to rub it in.
Look at it in this perspective,
you won't even win a lottery if you gossip about them. You should say Alhamdulillah for this magnificent talent you have.

But hey, if gossiping makes you rich then be my guess.

OK. Not literally.


TIP #4
(the last tip of the day)

Empathy.

Try putting yourself in his shoes.
If people talk bad about you, how would you feel?

I mean I'd cry a river but... forget I said that...

The point is that person will feel like how you would feel right?
So why not be a sport and forget about gossiping for today.

You can try again tomorrow.

That was scary.
I honestly don't know why I put that there. 0.0

So, I kind of lied a bit about the healthy gossip thing but at least you got something right?

kriiiik kriiiik kriiik

Oh sheesh at least laught AT me of not WITH me.

OK. Stop.

Sigh.
Moral of the story. A healthy gossip is not gossiping at all. -just in case you get it-
Last from me. :)

Have fun trying it out! :D

Ukhuwah

Ukhuwah.
What is ukhuwah?

Ukhuwah.
Ukhuwah = friendship?

Yes.
But there is more to it then friendship.

Ukhuwah.
Ukhuwah = loyalty?

Yes.
But ukhuwah is more then just loyalty.

Ukhuwah.
Ukhuwah = trust?

Yes.
But khuwah is more then just trust.

So what exactly is ukhuwah?

Ukhuwah.
Ukhuwah is friendship laced with aqidah.
In time shall it create a strong tree that will foster fruits of endless pleasure to many.

Ukhuwah.
Ukhuwah is a bungee rope tied to your feet at the merge of falling.
No matter how you stretch it,
Their loyalty remains unquestionable.
Bringing you back to the One and only.

Ukhuwah.
Ukhuwah is a parachute when you're falling in the sky.
Your life was on the line but gave your trust even moments before you reach the ground.
Because you trust it'll save you.

Ukhuwah.
Ukhuwah is love.
Ukhuwah is the Lord's love for us.
Ukhuwah is His nikmah for us.
Ukhuwah is a route to heaven.
Because when a friend in need is a friend indeed.
Allah sent us friends who advise us when we do wrong.
Friends who tell us to commit good deeds.
Friends with akhirah's benefits.
Friends who give doa behind our backs.
Hands that we'll hold untill Jannah.
InsyaAllah.

Note that I've said friends, not friend.

Once you've found ukhuwah you'll not get only 1 but million others as friends.
Brothers and sisters.

This is ukhuwah.

Allah most mesmerizing beauty.
So beautiful the eyes cease to see.
So melodious the ears caese to hear.
So blissfull the tounge caese to taste.
Only the heart can feel this beauty.

So?
What are you waiting for?
Did you find ukhuwah?